beware of good intentions…

As an adoptee, I feel that this song is under-discussed…

“The Gates of Paradise” by David Byrne, from his album Feelings.

I don’t think this is intentionally a song about being an adoptee, but rather a song about realizing that dogma can be destructive while being embedded within a family space that is itself somehow out of step.

But still, is there any stronger emotional red flag than “beware of good intentions and passion in their eyes” for an adoptee?

It is the adoptive parent who has been blinded by their own good intentions and passion for something that either is unattainable, or that is come and gone and they are unaware of its passing.

Published by Jeffrey Wes Unruh

Adoptee, born at the Magic Valley Regional Medical Center, April 15, 1974. I spent 23 years trying to figure out all the details, concluding my search in 2019 after meeting my biological father. I'm working on a book that encapsulates my thoughts on adoption in general, and the experience of being adopted.

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