As an adoptee, I feel that this song is under-discussed…
“The Gates of Paradise” by David Byrne, from his album Feelings.
I don’t think this is intentionally a song about being an adoptee, but rather a song about realizing that dogma can be destructive while being embedded within a family space that is itself somehow out of step.
But still, is there any stronger emotional red flag than “beware of good intentions and passion in their eyes” for an adoptee?
It is the adoptive parent who has been blinded by their own good intentions and passion for something that either is unattainable, or that is come and gone and they are unaware of its passing.