beware of good intentions…

As an adoptee, I feel that this song is under-discussed… “The Gates of Paradise” by David Byrne, from his album Feelings. I don’t think this is intentionally a song about being an adoptee, but rather a song about realizing that dogma can be destructive while being embedded within a family space that is itself somehow […]

aspects of search

Betty Jean Lifton, in her book “Lost & Found,” describes these as the stages of “Search” that adoptees experience. I’m placing this here for ease of reference. 1. Crossing the Threshold 2. Obsession 3. Limbo 4. Adult Fantasies 5. Piercing the Veil